Are You Your Own Worst Enemy?

We all do it, and we wonder ?  why??? 

Self-sabotage behavior occurs when YOU make life harder for yourself in some way?whether by acting against yourself or through carelessness.  There are many reasons behind this faulty decision-making process.

Lack of Self-Worth

Self-worth is the most important thing to value in your life because it affects how you feel about yourself and others.

 

If a person doesn't believe they are worthy, giving up will seem easier and smarter compared to trying. A lack of self-esteem or confidence can lead them down paths that aren?t necessarily positive and end by sabotaging their own plans without thinking twice.

Feeling out of Control

The feeling of being out of control is a tough one to deal with, but it's important if you want to  END the sabotage! When someone feels their power slipping away from them they'll do anything in order to NOT lose what little grasp remains. This includes giving up plans and sacrificing whatever good intentions may have been there. Nobody wants any more trouble than necessary ? right? This kind of thing can be hard for some people ? especially those who haven't learned how to accept responsibility fully without blaming others.

Impostor Syndrome

This one typically happens in the corporate world, or as you are climbing the ladder in your career. As you receive promotions or widespread acclaim, this may lead to the irrational fear that you could be called out as a fake. 

This can lead to self-sabotage behavior, resulting in less than optimal performance. The fear of not being good enough can lead you to do the bare minimum to avoid future promotions you are afraid may happen. When you are confident in yourself, you are much less likely to feel like you will be mistaken for a fake. 

People Don?t Like Change

Perhaps the most common reason people sabotage themselves is because humans are naturally opposed to change. This means they would subconsciously rather everything stay the same in their life rather than do anything that may push them out of their comfort zone. 

This is a trap! This will keep you from growing and developing into the person you are fully capable of becoming. The best way to combat this reason for self-sabotage is just by reminding yourself that change can be good ?  and know you can handle whatever may come your way! 

Boredom

This list wouldn?t be complete without referencing the fact that a number of people sabotage themselves simply because they are bored. They ruin something they had going for them in the hopes that their life will be more exciting (when the opposite is usually true). 

And usually, even if they don?t realize it, someone who intentionally sabotages themselves out of boredom may actually be afraid of failing. To combat this reason for acting against yourself, you will need to dig deep to find the real reason for the sabotage.

Self-sabotage is an increasingly common behavior in people, and thus it is important to learn what these behaviors are, and why they occur, so you can better combat them in your own life. Once you find the root of the reason you are acting against yourself, you will be well on your way to remedying it so it doesn?t happen again.